Secret to a long and happy marriage....

A couple was celebrating their golden wedding anniversary.

Their domestic tranquillity had long been the talk of the town. A local newspaper reporter was inquiring as to the secret of their long and happy marriage.

"Well, it dates back to our honeymoon," explained the lady. "We visited the Grand Canyon and took a trip down to the bottom of the canyon by pack mule. We hadn't gone too far when my husband's mule stumbled.

"My husband quietly said 'That's once.' We proceeded a little farther when the mule stumbled again. Once more my husband quietly said, 'That's twice.' We hadn't gone a half-mile when the mule stumbled a third time.

My husband promptly removed a revolver from his pocket and shot him.
I started to protest over his treatment of the mule when he looked at me and quietly said 'That's once.'"

Annie Wan

This is hilarious!

Caller : Hello, can I speak to Annie Wan?
Operator : Yes, you can speak to me.

Caller: No, I want to speak to Annie Wan!

Operator: You are talking to someone! Who is this?

Caller: I'm Sam Wan. And I need to talk to Annie Wan! It's urgent.

Operator: I know you are someone and you want to talk to anyone! But what's this urgent matter about?

Caller: Well... just tell my sister Annie Wan that our brother Noel Wan was involved in an accident. Noel Wan got injured and now Noel Wan is being sent to the hospital. Right now, Avery Wan is on his way to the hospital.

Operator: Look if no one was injured and no one was sent to the hospital, then the accident isn't an urgent matter! You may! find this hilarious but I don't have time for this!

Caller: You are so rude! Who are you?

Operator: I'm Saw Lee.

Caller: Yes! You should be sorry. Now give me your name!!

ITS LUNAR NEW YEAR!

Hurray! Its the Lunar New Year again.... time of the year to have the biggest excuse to binge on goodies, have more shopping treats and collect more red packets! Wahoooooo..... but truth be told, ur value decreases with age. Keke. Yes its true. If you're still single and not married by the age of 30, some can forget about getting red packets. That's sad. Ha.

Anyway, thats just the bait to get us to do house visiting. At the same time, I am also looking forward to gatherings of relatives of whom we seldom get to meet (and convict ourselves to hours of "interrogation") - like do you have a bf? when r u getting married? duh. like our lives do not get any more interesting than that. :P it gets boring when you get 10 similar qns like tt in a day, i reckon it will be better if our answers were being recorded as well so we can play it over and over again.... heheh.

Well, thats it for me during the next few days. More visiting and binging... and hopefully more angbaos. Cheerz!

congratulations? MY ARSE!

Dear colleagues

I am pleased and proud to announce the promotion of XXX to the position of Project Director (LS Events).

For the last few months, XX has more than held fort for this position and has grown to be the asset we need to spearhead and bring the LS events to further heights. Do join me in congratulating her on her appointment.

Regards
Chief Executive


^^ words like "asset" and "spearhead and bring the LS events to further heights" - overstatement. earlier on during the day, this news was being mentioned at one of the meetings... but after it was being said, it was pure total sweet silence... HAHAHAH. imagine that! no one even said a word of congrats or gave an indication tt it's a piece of happy news. but think we care? No, we don't give a shit.

Its a brand new year!

HAPPY NEW YEAR everyone out there!

Another year just wheezed past like that... another yr older and hopefully wiser too... keke =P

Guess what?! Our office has decided to put an end to IM in the office, no MSN, yahoo, ICQ or wadevers not... "WOH GNIROB!" [read it backwards ;)] hehehe... kinda attracted to this trick from Cecilia Ahern's new book - "If you could see me now". another brillant works of hers... truly enjoy reading it... not the kind that guys will fancy (not that they read anyway, though I happen to noe one and tts my baby hee)... but definitely this is a must-read for ladies. Nice!

From the internationally bestselling author of PS, I LOVE YOU, a lively and romantic novel about two lost souls who find each other in the most unexpected way. Everything in Elizabeth Egan?s life has its place, from the espresso cups in her gleaming kitchen to the swatches and paint pots of her interior design business. Order and precision keep life under control?and keep Elizabeth?s heart from the pain and hurt she has suffered in the past. Being a reluctant mother to her six-year-old nephew while trying to keep her business on track is a full-time job for Elizabeth, and one that leaves little room for error?or fun.

Until, one day, Ivan unexpectedly comes into their lives. The mysterious Ivan is carefree, spontaneous and always looking for adventure?everything that Elizabeth is not. If You Could See Me Now is the extraordinary tale of Ivan and Elizabeth. Of how Ivan meets the love of his life before she even sees him, and how he teaches her that life is only worth living when it's blindingly colourful and the occasional mess. Yet just when Elizabeth is starting to trust him, it turns out that Ivan isn't at all who she thought he was.Playful and at times intensely moving, this is a novel about how seeing isn't always believing. Full of Cecelia Ahern?s trademark warmth and poignancy, If You Could See Me Now is a story of enormous heart--and just a little bit of magic.

OK, i kind of side tracked there... well ya as i was saying our office have blocked all IM programs... well i guess this is kinda like the last resort as they have already sent out multiple warnings which have fell on deaf ears... and now we'll have to once again use email as the only form of communication for our gossip sessions (if any). did i mention we're quite devastated? lol.

alright... gotta get back to work now... more to come in the months ahead but well wth... bring it on... guess will just have to handle the shit one at a time... anyway whats new right? we can already foresee more shit, more work, more miscommunications, and more shift-blaming... so if there's a course out there on "how to save your own ass effectively"... pls sign me up. i'll be more than willing to take it on. ha.

btw my photos have already been uploaded, if you have not been venturing out into my photo album, here's the direct links:

Vietnam Trip, HCMC

Dinner&Dance 2005, Shanghai Night

the last couple of mths

last couple of mths.... only 1 word to describe it... hectic... totally crazy too... my colleague and me were practically clocking in more than 12hrs of work almost every day... i wonder how we survived... haha. with my vietnam nightmare over, i now have my sg show to "look forward" to... more OTs... more wkends burned.... dont even want to think about it -.-"

so... what have i been up to? work work and more work... been to ho chi minh city, vietnam for a week for the exhibition that i was handling... overall good show, and great exposure even though its quite an "experience" to be working with *ahem* the locals. well lets just put it as language barriers... sometimes i just wish i could speak Vietnamese in an instance so that they would be able to understand what i'm trying to put across... otherwise most of the time, i'll be wondering if they really understood me cos they have the tendency to nod their heads and reply "okok" and you could get something else that's totally not "ok"! therefore in the process, alot of patience will be required in communicating with them in order to ensure that things will be done your way. overall, the Vietnamese are really friendly people and helpful too.

the trip to Vietnam was pretty enjoyable.... our boss even graciously extended a 1-day stay for some of us... hehe... so that we can go shopping =P .... and believe me when i say tailoring in Vietnam is VERY cheap... you get the material from their local markets or one of their well known touristic place, Ben Thanh market.... and then proceed to the tailor to get the kind of tops/ dresses/ pants that you'd like tailored.... their workmanship only costs (avgly) SGD10.00. Any idea how cheap that is??? It means we can get a pair of pants tailored (including marerial & workmanship) for as low as SGD21.00!! With a pair of Mango pants that's purchased in SG, you can get 5 pairs of pants there, TAILORED to fit you. now thats cheep!!

bcos this is my first time there, well i didnt go totally crazy... but before my next trip, i'll be sure to do enough research so that i'll be able to do my shopping there... keke. totally worthwhile manz.

generally, (besides those at the exhibition halls & having to co-share the room with someone on the top of my "hate" list at the moment), life is pretty slow paced and relaxed over there. it is good to be able to enjoy good food every day, the only regret is not being able to try the delicious lobster which my colleagues were raving about.... haha.

i fell sick thou, the moment i touched down in sg... so was in pretty bad shape but slowly recuperating now and trying to get back to life here back in sg... it felt so different to be back again after this stint in Vietnam (even though it was only for a week)...

and then we had our annual D&D yesterday evening... the theme was Shanghai Night (1940s).... thanks to the wonderful support of my beloved colleagues, i managed to get the best-dressed award! hahaha... like finally, i was nominated twice in the past but never did manage to get the top prize. SO, you must be thinking what I was dressed in?? Heheh.... i took loads of pictures with all of them... even thou none of the cameras belonged to me, so will have to wait for all of them to download and forward the pictures to me... and if you're interested to know what i was dressed up in, well stay tuned until i have downloaded all the pictures yeah? promise i wont take too long... hehe, will also include the pictures of those that was taken during my Vietnam trip... many many act cute pictures, but well the owner of this blog is by nature "kawaii" eh? hahahahah~

A soulful Relationship

An African proverb states, "Before you get married, keep both eyes open, and after you marry, close one eye."

Before you get involved and make a commitment to someone, don't let lust, desperation, immaturity, ignorance, pressure from others or a low self-esteem make you blind to warning signs.

Keep your eyes open, and don't fool yourself that you can change someone or that what you see as faults aren't really important.

Once you decide to commit to someone, over time their flaws, vulnerabilities, pet pee ves, and differences will become more obvious.

If you love your mate and want the relationship to grow and evolve, you've got to learn to close one eye and not let every little thing bother you.

You and your mate have many different expectations, emotional needs, values, dreams, weaknesses, and strengths.

You are two unique individuals who have decided to share a life together. Neither of you are perfect, but are you perfect for each other?

Do you bring out the best of each other?
Do you compliment and compromise with each other, or do you compete, compare, and control? What do you bring to the relationship?
Do you bring past relationships, past hurt, past mistrust, past pain?
You can't take someone to the altar to alter him or her.
You can't make someone love you or make someone stay.
If you develop self-esteem, spiritual discernment, and "a life", you won't find yourself making someone else responsible for your happiness or responsible for your pain.
Manipulation, control, jealousy, neediness, and selfishness are not the ingredients of a thriving, healthy, loving and lasting relationship.
Seeking status, sex, wealth, and security are the wrong reasons to be in a relationship. What keeps a relationship strong?
Communication, intimacy, trust, a sense of humor, sharing household tasks, some getaway time without business or children and daily exchanges (a meal, shared activity, a hug, a call, a touch, a note).
Leave a nice message on their voicemail or send a nice email.
Sharing common goals and interests.
Growth is important.
Grow together, not away from each other, giving each other space to grow without feeling insecure.
Allow your mate to have outside interest.
You can't always be together.
Give each other a sense of belonging and assurances of commitment.
Don't try to control one another.
Learn each other's family situation.
Respect his or her parents regardless.
Don't put pressure on each other for material goods.
Remember for richer or for poorer.

If these qualities are missing, the relationship will erode as resentment, withdrawal, abuse, neglect, dishonesty, and pain replace the passion.

" Nurture your mind with great thoughts, for you will never go any higher than you think." The grass withers, the flowers fades, but the word of God stands forever.

Shall we make a new rule of life from tonight?

Always to try to be a little kinder than is necessary.

The difference between 'United' and 'Unt ied' is where you put the "i".Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take, but by the moments that take our breath away.

invisibility

3 October 2005: 6+ (evening time)

H asked me if I will be staying late. I replied saying mebbe, why?

And he said: In that case, can you wait for me to be back? I need you to prepare some stuff for my XX meeting tomorrow as I won't be in the whole morning.

So I waited.

At about 6+, I saw H back in the office, but he went into S room immediately to discuss some stuff. Not wanting to disturb them, I just waited. After which, I didn't realised when H came out of the room, but S said goodbye to me at 8+. That was when I noticed their discussion was over. And it struck me that H might have left too. Went to check and the empty room, with the lightings switched off, confirmed my suspicions.

I text him:
"u very nice leh. u got me to wait and haven't told me what you needed for the mtg tmr, and u just left without telling me."

He replied after a very long while:
"Celine, my most sincere apology".

Apology, my arse. Do.not.take.me.for.granted! I am really getting very frustrated with this bunch of mgt contracted with the id10t disease. ARGH!

how nice of this person. didnt even have the courtesy to let me know why they did not need the design to be printed. just one email to the other mgr, please ignore.

fine. im invisible. damn!

-----Original Message-----
From: H
Sent: Monday, October 03, 2005 10:36 AM
To: D
Cc: C; S
Subject: XXX Pav Design

David, please ignore this email.

Rdgs
Henri


-----Original Message-----
From: CEL
Sent: Monday, October 03, 2005 10:36 AM
To: D
Cc: S; H
Subject: XXX Pav Design

Hi D,

I?m not sure if you have another set of latest design for the XXX Pav apart from the set that I have (which was received in July).

Could you help me print out 2 sets of their latest design in colour please? This is for the sales meeting with XXX organisation tomorrow morning.

Thanks!
Celine

blessing in disguise

i didnt know about the bali bombing until 30 mins ago, when my uncle told me about the shocking news. i just visited bali barely a mth ago, and thinking back, one of my friends had wanted to postpone the trip. cant bring myself to imagine if we did postponed and we might have been one of the victims. *shudders*

im appalled, shocked and disgusted with these acts of the terrorists group. they can die for all we care, but why do they have to harm innocent lives like these? bali took 3 years to recover slowly, and even before their recovery is stable, these stupid fucks have to plant the bombs and claim innocent lives. do they find no meaning in life at all? is life worthless to them? do they really think they are helping to rid the world of all evils? just cannot imagine where this world is coming to. its painful to know that the balinese will yet again have to live in fear, the economy (of which tourism forms the bulk) will sink into recession, and the locals will need to rebuild their lives from scratch.

Article abstract from Yahoo:
BALI, Indonesia - Suicide bombers wearing explosive vests targeted tourist resorts on Bali with coordinated attacks that devastated three crowded restaurants on Saturday night, killing at least 25 people. Two al-Qaida-linked fugitives suspected of masterminding the 2002 nightclub bombings on the same Indonesian island may have been involved, a top anti-terrorism official said.

Saturday's near-simultaneous blasts struck two seafood cafes in the Jimbaran beach resort and a three-story noodle and steakhouse in downtown Kuta. Kuta is the bustling tourist center of Bali where two nightclubs were bombed three years ago, also on a busy Saturday night, killing 202 people.

Dozens of people, most of them Indonesian, waited in tears outside the morgue in Sanglah Hospital, near the island's capital Denpasar, for news of friends and relatives missing since the attacks.

Two Australians and a Japanese citizen were killed, along with 12 Indonesians. Hospital officials were trying to identify the 10 other corpses.

The 101 wounded included 49 Indonesians, 17 Australians, six Koreans, four Japanese and two Americans, officials said.

The bombers struck at about 8 p.m. as thousands of diners flocked to restaurants in tourist areas on the bustling, mostly Hindu island, which was just starting to recover from the 2002 blasts.

Baradita Katoppo, an Indonesian tourist from Jakarta, said one of the bombs on Jimbaran beach went off in the Nyoman Cafe, where he was eating with friends. Five minutes later, another explosion rocked a neighboring restaurant filled with diners.

"There was blood on their faces and their bodies," he said. "It was very chaotic and confusing. We didn't know what to do."

Another witness, I Wayan Kresna, told the private El Shinta radio station that he counted at least two dead near that attack, and many more were taken to the hospital.
"I helped lift up the bodies," he said. "There was blood everywhere."

At almost the same time about 18 miles away in Kuta, a bomb exploded at the three-story Raja restaurant in a bustling outdoor shopping center. The area includes a KFC fast-food restaurant, clothing stores and a tourist information center.

Smoke poured from the badly damaged building.

The bomb apparently went off on the restaurant's second floor, and an Associated Press reporter saw at least three bodies and five wounded people there.

learn as we grow...

As we grow up, we learn that even the one person that wasn't supposed to ever let you down probably will.

You will have your heart broken probably more than once and it's harder every time.

You'll break hearts too, so remember how it felt when yours was broken.

You'll fight with your best friend.

You'll blame a new love for things an old one did.

You'll cry because time is passing too fast, and you'll eventually lose someone you love.

So take too many pictures, laugh too much, and love like you've never been hurt because every sixty seconds you spend upset is a minute of happiness you'll never get back.

~ Advice from Oprah about men ~

If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away.
If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay.
Stop making excuses for a man and his behaviour.
Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache.
Stop trying to change yourself for a relationship that's not meant to be.
Slower is better.
Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy.
If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve then heck no, you can't "be friends".
A friend wouldn't mistreat a friend.
Don't settle.If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is.
Don't stay because you think "it will get better." You'll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not better.
The only person you can control in a relationship is you.
Avoid men who've got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women.
He didn't marry them when he got them pregnant, why would he treat you any differently?
Always have your own set of friends separate from his.
Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you.
If something bothers you, speak up.
Never let a man know everything.
He will use it against you later.
You cannot change a man's behaviour. Change comes from within.
Don't EVER make him feel he is more important than you are... even if he has more education or in a better job.
Do not make him into a quasi-god. He is a man, nothing more nothing less.
Never let a man define who you are.
Never borrow someone else's man. If he cheated with you, he'll cheat on you.
A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you.
All men are NOT dogs.
You should not be the one doing all the bending...compromise is two way street.
You need time to heal between relationships...there is nothing cute about baggage... deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship.
You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you...a relationship consists of two WHOLE individuals...look for someone complimentary...not supplementary.
Dating is fun...even if he doesn't turn out to be Mr. Right.
Make him miss you sometimes...when a man always know where you are,and you're always readily available to him - he takes it for granted.
Never move into his mother's house.
Never co-sign for a man.
Don't fully commit to a man who doesn't give you everything that you need.
Keep him in your radar but get to know others.

They say it takes a minute to find a special person, an hour to appreciate them, a day to love them and an entire lifetime to forget them.

Curbing the impulse to stray

Man or beast? You can choose Hubby's job to get her 'in the mood'

Letter from Boon Chin AunLetter from Terence LeongLetter from Wilson Wong Uei Shen

Men were born to stray, and independent women today no longer need men to provide for them. So, should we replace marriage with a cohabitation contract? Reader Wilson Wong's letter yesterday drew many strong reactions ? including three from other men ?

I REFER to Mr Wong's letter, "Time to replace marriage with a cohabitation contact?" and Mrs Lam's letter, "Don't blame the other woman if he strays", (Aug22).

Mrs Lam seems to suggest that women should blame themselves when a man strays.
While I understand it does take two hands to clap, the approach of saying that "I am to blame when things go wrong" is not right.

Mr Wong suggests it is inherent in males to "go forth and multiply", and that men cannot be blamed for straying as not doing so is against their nature.

In both instances, what the writers failed to recognise is that what differentiates us as human beings over animals is our ability to exercise choice, and the intelligence to accept responsibility for that choice.

We, as men, choose to get married. With that, we choose to accept the responsibilities and limitations that come with marriage.

If we choose to stray, we do so consciously accepting to break whatever vow we chose to make when we got married. To absolve a man from blame by simplistically saying that when men stray, it's the woman's fault as suggested by Mrs Lam; or that it's natural for men to stray as suggested by Wilson Wong ? is to equate men to nothing more than animals with no means to control themselves or exercise their gift of choice and intelligence.

We are a society of human beings, each governed with a brain that tells us that we should know better. We trust our partners to make the right choice. If it's not to marry, so be it. But if they choose to marry, then they must be held accountable for that choice. This after all, is what makes us human.

Cohabitation is not necessarily better

I AM sure Mr Wong meant well but I would like to point out firstly that cohabitation is not as rosy as one might think.

In the most progressive countries, where cohabitation is the norm, countless studies have shown how cohabitation reduces the quality of intimacy in relationships (for both men and women) in the long run, and deprive women of their rights and protection.

Women who cohabit may think they are holding onto their equality. Unfortunately, they find that, in the long run, men still expect their partners to fulfil traditional roles once the relationship settles in. Thus, if anything, women find themselves in more disadvantaged positions.

I do not see a need to replace the marriage institution with a cohabitation contract. Those who want to cohabit are already free to do so legally.

But those who decide to marry must be responsible enough to recognise that it is not compatible with extra-marital affairs.

People are already free to choose.

There is no need to discredit the marriage institution because some people have not been able to live up to it. Granted, social expectations might continue to become more liberal and more people may opt out of it. Still, let the marriage institution continue for those who want to live up to its ideals and enjoy its benefits.

MY NAMESAKE gave a lot of reasons why men stray, but under scrutiny, his reasons just point to the self-serving mentality that society should guard against.

He noted that women lose their sex drive after a while and focus more on the children.

Husbands, too, should plan time to be alone with their wives, away from the children.

I attribute women's lack of sexual desire to the fact that the men do not spend time alone with their wives, planning romantic dinners or strolls along the beach. If you want sexual desire, create the environment to nurture that desire.

Likewise, wives should stop giving excuses that they are tired (so are the men!).

Mr Wong argues that the law here does not help the men. But it is precisely the act of adultery by such inconsiderate men that requires the existence of such a law.

A marriage is by far the most emotionally satisfying institution that men and women could have. But for marriage to work, it will take men to dig deep into the emotional well to connect with their wives.

If one cannot even uphold the terms and conditions of a marriage, how then can I trust a person to uphold the terms and conditions of a cohabitation contract?

Time to replace marriage with a cohabitation contract?

An article published in Today! newspaper - 23 Aug 2005

Women should expect less from their man and understand that philandering is in his nature

Letter from Wilson Wong

I refer to the report, "Stay away from my husband, you hear!" (Aug 19) and the letter "Don't blame the other woman if he strays" (Aug 22) by Mrs Lam.

I am nearing middle age and all of my male friends are married ? most with children.

When we get together, we always reminisce about the days gone by and take stock of what's left of our lives. And almost inevitably we end up talking about women in general and our wives in particular.

I discovered, at first to my shock, how commonplace it was that so many of my friends cheated on their wives.

Most confessed to doing so mostly on business trips, but others also told me that they had flings nearer home ? usually with their colleagues.

These friends have no intention to file for divorce or pursue a life with the "other" woman.

Mrs Lam has correctly identified the key reason why they do this ? after marriage and especially after childbirth, wives lose their sexual drive, creating a pent-up desire in men who are used to a higher degree of physical sexual expression.

This gets worse when the children are born, as wives not only lose their shape but also spend almost all their time and energy on the kids, almost ignoring their husbands.

So, is this an excuse for men to stray?

It depends on the age-old "nature-vs-nurture" debate and whether the male of a species conditioned to "go forth and multiply" can ? by sheer exercise of discipline ? curb his natural need to keep sowing his seed.

And it seems the older a man gets, and the more he is confronted with his mortality, the more he desires to prove ? both to himself and maybe even his friends ? that he is still able to "perform".

Certainly, all men stray if not physically, at least psychologically ? by either looking at attractive women, watching porn or even fantasising about sex with others.

Traditions of love and marriage are nice. But reading all the letters and various discussions on the matter, I am tempted to say ? and I know that this will cause controversy ? that there is nothing to recommend marriage to a man.

Certainly not in law, where men always lose out in marriage, and neither in reality, where men face self-imposed restrictions on their natural tendencies.

Looking back, almost all my friends regret the act of marriage. Given a second chance, most would rather cohabit ? not least because the legal consequences are less serious.

The concept of marriage was intended to protect women: It does nothing for the man. But times have changed and with the growing affluence of women, there is no longer a need for a man to provide for a woman.

Mrs Lam's letter may have struck a cord. Is it time for women to expect less from their man? To realise and even to expect that their man cannot, by nature, only have one woman for ever and ever?

Is it time for the concept of marriage to be done away with, and be replaced with a contract where both parties negotiate the terms of their cohabitation? Even to the extent where each party may have an allowable number of affairs a year?

As times change, maybe social expectation should too.

-end-


have our values really changed with the times? perhaps this is the answer to my curiosity on faithfulness and monogamy in a marriage.

in the writer's words: Certainly, all men stray if not physically, at least psychologically ? by either looking at attractive women, watching porn or even fantasising about sex with others. honestly, i doubt guys think of the above act as straying psychologically because to them their opinion is: "i'm just looking wat, its harmless. its not as if i am cheating on u and at the end of the day, ur the woman i love and i want to be with u."

but they will never be able to see from the woman's point of view, that it might be a form of hurt inflicted on their loved ones, no matter how much reassurance is given.

if a couple cannot remain committed to the other party, i feel marriage shouldnt be on the plate and no one should wed out of society / parental pressure bcos at the end of the day, both parties will suffer n be miserable. "a cohabitation contract" will probably work for all who still remain and wish to keep their options open.

heartfelt thanks

i've just turned officially 1/4 of a century old today... hahaha! guess age is really catching up, bcos this day started off with me having the "its-jus-another-day" mentality... it has nothing special in it anymore. on saying this, i want to express my heartfelt thanks to the following special people in my life that have made a difference. this day is special + memorable because of the difference that each and everyone has made, and it means alot to me. words may never be enuf to express my gratitude, but just want to noe tt all of ur thoughts are very much appreciated, and i thank God for the blessed presence of all of you in my life.

u may have heard it a thousand times from me, so doesn't hurt to hear it again eh. i'll like to thank and show appreciation to:-

- Agnes: for sending me a message on friendster even before u have left for sydney! i noe ur enjoying ur hols there right now, so we'll catch up when u + xiaofu are back!

- Patricia: for the loving words of encouragement that you have written to me, and to prepare a gift for me despite ur heavy work schedule

- Verene: for ur sms at 23:57. i noe ur bz with ur event gal, so as promised, we'll make it up after ur NTU saga! hehe.

- Alvin: for ur sms at 07:45 and ur call later on in the afternoon. i noe u have an especially selective memory, so really "honoured" tt im at least on this day, in the selected category. =P

- Marion: for ur sms at 09:01. surprised tt u actually got to be aware of my bdae, thankful for the thoughts n efforts in sending me the well wishes.

- Stella: for ur sms at 09:43. thanks for making a point to remember this day every year. :)

- David: for ur sms at 09:53 all day way frm Dubai. much much appreciated. i noe it takes alot of effort for u to rembr + u must have stored da date somewhere to remind u. heh.

- Jim: for ur sms at 10:03. haha i noe u took big risks to message me in the day whilst stuck in camp. we miss u guyz, catch up soon.

- Edgar: for ur call in the afternoon. though it ended halfway for no apparent reason (foneline got disconnected)... haha, hope you got my message anyway.

- Wei Kiat: for ur message on friendster. thanks for taking the effort to drop me a message.

- Joanne: for ur sms at 11:23. after all these years, u still rembred!

- Kay: for ur sms at 16:02. haha, my insurance agent...

- Kaili: for ur sms at 16:10. i noe Junjie planned something, sorry it didnt work out last minute but appreciated the thoughts. really sweet.

- Irene: for ur sms at 17:51. i thought ill nv hear from u but deep down i noe u rembred. and thank u gal, for taking the time to send me a text despite having to take care of your 2 bao-beis. and thanks for being my support all these years even though we do not often have the luxury of time to meet up as much as we'd like to these days.

- Jillyn: for ur sms at 17:56. haha, ur instincts didnt fail u!

- Junjie: for ur sms n msn messages.... and for the very very sweet efforts that you had initially planned for me. i'm truly sorry that it didnt work out, due to the last minute changes, but knowing tt u had wanted to plan a special evening is more den enuf.

- Ivan, Uncle John + Aunt Cindy: for ur sms at 20:10. ur constant encouragement and support is much appreciated.

- Xinying: for ur sms at 21:36.

- Kyn: for ur msn message. thanks for taking time to do it, despite ur hectic work schedule which i noe ur being put through. hope you get back to sg soon so that we can catch up and have a good time together yeah!

- Yanting: for ur msn message.

- Caden: for ur call! haha... nice to hear from u after such a long while.

- Rachel: for ur msn message. actually no i didnt think u forgot, but i thought u didnt noe! haha, anyway i noe u did pass on this info to the boyz so tt they can send me their well wishes, so on tt note, thanks for being the informal messenger... haha.. be strong girl, u noe we'll always be there for u when u need a shoulder to lean on. the desk beside me is still empty, so feel free to come occupy it when u need it. hehe.

- Desmond: for ur msn message, even though u needed the alarm to remind u... haha but well u bothered to make a note, and that touched me.

- Helen: for ur msn message. thank u for making the effort to wait for me to be online. and im glad we have finally faced up to probs we have avoided before. thanks for cherishing our friendship the same way i do, and we'll meet up when u do come back for ur graduation soon.


My following colleagues at work who at my "request" gave me what i needed on my bdae. an external hard drive. and i really hope they did not spend too much as i noe everyone has a budget to keep to. rest aasure that this gift will be treasured and used till the end of time. =D

- Karis: for ur sms at 00:15, and for ur constant / relentless support u have given me each time i have turned to u for a listening ear.

- Jeanette + Larry: for ur sms at 01:24. i believe we will have an enjoyable bali trip!

- Eileen (my ai-ren): for ur sms at 08:22 + making the trip to prepare the cake for me.

- Leon: for accompanying ai-ren to get the cake for me. heh.

- Li Hwee: for ur sms at 09:02 and ur e-card. haha... and "tuo ni de fu", I didnt have another chocolate cake to eat at night (thankfully)... hehehe

- Megan: for ur sms at 09:55, even though ur sick and on medical leave.

- Kippy: for making the special trip down to sim lim to get the hard drive over the weekend, and offering me the tea when i was so bloated from lunch. *much appreciated*

- Delaine: for the present and the scrumptious lunch we had, and haha another reason for u to rembr my birthdae cos u've only got to rembr the month =P

- Elyn: for the present, the scrumptious lunch we had and the ecard. hehe, no kidding about ur turn coming soon, so better start wrecking ur brains to see what we can get for ya! heh.

- Debbie: for the present and the email with the well wishes.


I'll like to thank my mum + her friend who brought me and Sam for dinner. Though it was a simple affair, but I appreciate them for taking the time off and trouble to have this dinner with me.

And lastly, i'll like to thank my dearest bf Sam, for he took leave to keep me company (when i least expected it, bcos he was spposed to be on duty) and to me, this is priceless. Even though we are going through a period where sometimes even we are lost and dumbfounded as to how things can go so wrong, i still love you. and im looking forward to the bali trip to really create a memorable trip for both of us. *hugs*


Some photos taken during lunch:








the superlicious yummy nummy chocolate cake. just for me.


















striking a "cute" pose whilst they sing the birthday song for me















posing with the chocolate in hand, capturing its last moments before its being chowed down






















thats the external hard drive beneath the nicely wrapped packaging! haha, can i qualify to be a model for product promotions? i seem to be doing it quite nicely in this pic *if i say so* hahaha.

a.i.d.s.

Funny web games to try n links to view when bored

Super Mario
>> http://www.youfunny.com/images/img/f-280.swf


Back to the future
>> http://www.backtothefuture.nl/flash/squoosh.swf


Hilarious advert
>> http://www.ad-awards.com/inc/video.swf?id=116

The Shower Test

When you step into a shower, which part of the body do you wash first?

A. Chest B. Face C. Armpits D. Hair E. Private F. Shoulders G. Others


Pinkie: D. Hair


A. Chest: You are a practical person. Straightforward and do not beat around the bush. To you, convenience is of paramount importance. You hate to be distracted when concentrating and are impatient with people who do not see things your way. A good sex partner and willing to try new things. Your best partner in life will be those who choose D (Hair).



B. Face: Money is important to you and you will do anything to get it. Integrity and dignity is not important. You feel that friends are there to be used and life is one big hassle. Other people find it hard to understand you, but you are not concerned as to what they think. Very self-centered person. Average sex partner as too selfish and tend to be absorbed in self pleasure at the expense of your partner. Your best partner in life will be those who choose E (Private) and G (Others).



C. Armpits: You are a dependable and hard working person. Generally very popular person as you are very down to earth and willing to help others. Tend to get yourself into trouble as you cannot tell whether people are genuine towards you. Make very poor sex partners as you are the working type with average talent. Your best partner in life will be those who choose F (Shoulders).



D. Hair: Artistic type. Daydreaming is your hobby, but you can achieve what most other people cannot. Dedication is lacking, but you will work tirelessly towards goals which are to your liking. Money is not important. Friends are but only intellectuals and fellow artistic types. Make the best sex partners as you are most willing to explore and please ther other partner. Talent is your main strength. Your best partner in life will be those who chose A (Chest) and E (Private).



E. Private Shy type. You lack self confidence and tend to be bullied by others. You do not have lots of friends as others find you boring and unattractive. Perserverance is not your strength and you tend to give up easily and at the first opportunity. However, you make an above average sex partner. You are able to show your true emotions to very few people. Hence in sex, you find your inner strengths. Your best sex partner in life will be those who choose B (Face) and D (Hair).



F. Shoulder: A born loser. You fail in everything that you do. People dislike you and you tend to spend your time alone. Your type have been known to be heavy gamblers and drinkers. You see the world as a living hell. Money and power is also important to you. But your luck will always fail you. You make a lousy sex partner. You will find it difficult to find a partner in life. Those who choose C (Armpits) are your only chance.



G. Others: You are a very average person. Undoubtedly, you have your inner strengths, but people find it hard to see. You must learn to be a little bit more adventurous and see your potential. Deep down, you are very likeable person with very few faults. However, the key will be to make your strengts stand out and not just hide your weaknessess. You are an average sex partner. You have great fantasies about different techniques, but unfortunately are not brave enough to try them out. Your best partner in life will be those who choose B (Face).

email saga continues...

I AM TOTALLY LEFT SPEECHLESS. why dont U try to call to verify.... PIECE OF SHIT!!!!!!!!!!!! ARGH?!??!?!??!?!?!?!??!??!?!??!?!?!?!?


-----Original Message-----
From: H
Sent: Monday, August 15, 2005 5:08 PM
To: C; S; B
Cc: M
Subject: RE: MSFWSPL

Hum?. Spoken to the recep this morning still around lei!!!!!!!

Rdgs
H


-----Original Message-----
From: CEL
Sent: Monday, August 15, 2005 4:33 PM
To: H; S; B
Cc: M
Subject: RE: MSFWSPL


He went outstation. Back only Fri, 19 Aug.