A soulful Relationship

An African proverb states, "Before you get married, keep both eyes open, and after you marry, close one eye."

Before you get involved and make a commitment to someone, don't let lust, desperation, immaturity, ignorance, pressure from others or a low self-esteem make you blind to warning signs.

Keep your eyes open, and don't fool yourself that you can change someone or that what you see as faults aren't really important.

Once you decide to commit to someone, over time their flaws, vulnerabilities, pet pee ves, and differences will become more obvious.

If you love your mate and want the relationship to grow and evolve, you've got to learn to close one eye and not let every little thing bother you.

You and your mate have many different expectations, emotional needs, values, dreams, weaknesses, and strengths.

You are two unique individuals who have decided to share a life together. Neither of you are perfect, but are you perfect for each other?

Do you bring out the best of each other?
Do you compliment and compromise with each other, or do you compete, compare, and control? What do you bring to the relationship?
Do you bring past relationships, past hurt, past mistrust, past pain?
You can't take someone to the altar to alter him or her.
You can't make someone love you or make someone stay.
If you develop self-esteem, spiritual discernment, and "a life", you won't find yourself making someone else responsible for your happiness or responsible for your pain.
Manipulation, control, jealousy, neediness, and selfishness are not the ingredients of a thriving, healthy, loving and lasting relationship.
Seeking status, sex, wealth, and security are the wrong reasons to be in a relationship. What keeps a relationship strong?
Communication, intimacy, trust, a sense of humor, sharing household tasks, some getaway time without business or children and daily exchanges (a meal, shared activity, a hug, a call, a touch, a note).
Leave a nice message on their voicemail or send a nice email.
Sharing common goals and interests.
Growth is important.
Grow together, not away from each other, giving each other space to grow without feeling insecure.
Allow your mate to have outside interest.
You can't always be together.
Give each other a sense of belonging and assurances of commitment.
Don't try to control one another.
Learn each other's family situation.
Respect his or her parents regardless.
Don't put pressure on each other for material goods.
Remember for richer or for poorer.

If these qualities are missing, the relationship will erode as resentment, withdrawal, abuse, neglect, dishonesty, and pain replace the passion.

" Nurture your mind with great thoughts, for you will never go any higher than you think." The grass withers, the flowers fades, but the word of God stands forever.

Shall we make a new rule of life from tonight?

Always to try to be a little kinder than is necessary.

The difference between 'United' and 'Unt ied' is where you put the "i".Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take, but by the moments that take our breath away.

invisibility

3 October 2005: 6+ (evening time)

H asked me if I will be staying late. I replied saying mebbe, why?

And he said: In that case, can you wait for me to be back? I need you to prepare some stuff for my XX meeting tomorrow as I won't be in the whole morning.

So I waited.

At about 6+, I saw H back in the office, but he went into S room immediately to discuss some stuff. Not wanting to disturb them, I just waited. After which, I didn't realised when H came out of the room, but S said goodbye to me at 8+. That was when I noticed their discussion was over. And it struck me that H might have left too. Went to check and the empty room, with the lightings switched off, confirmed my suspicions.

I text him:
"u very nice leh. u got me to wait and haven't told me what you needed for the mtg tmr, and u just left without telling me."

He replied after a very long while:
"Celine, my most sincere apology".

Apology, my arse. Do.not.take.me.for.granted! I am really getting very frustrated with this bunch of mgt contracted with the id10t disease. ARGH!

how nice of this person. didnt even have the courtesy to let me know why they did not need the design to be printed. just one email to the other mgr, please ignore.

fine. im invisible. damn!

-----Original Message-----
From: H
Sent: Monday, October 03, 2005 10:36 AM
To: D
Cc: C; S
Subject: XXX Pav Design

David, please ignore this email.

Rdgs
Henri


-----Original Message-----
From: CEL
Sent: Monday, October 03, 2005 10:36 AM
To: D
Cc: S; H
Subject: XXX Pav Design

Hi D,

I?m not sure if you have another set of latest design for the XXX Pav apart from the set that I have (which was received in July).

Could you help me print out 2 sets of their latest design in colour please? This is for the sales meeting with XXX organisation tomorrow morning.

Thanks!
Celine

blessing in disguise

i didnt know about the bali bombing until 30 mins ago, when my uncle told me about the shocking news. i just visited bali barely a mth ago, and thinking back, one of my friends had wanted to postpone the trip. cant bring myself to imagine if we did postponed and we might have been one of the victims. *shudders*

im appalled, shocked and disgusted with these acts of the terrorists group. they can die for all we care, but why do they have to harm innocent lives like these? bali took 3 years to recover slowly, and even before their recovery is stable, these stupid fucks have to plant the bombs and claim innocent lives. do they find no meaning in life at all? is life worthless to them? do they really think they are helping to rid the world of all evils? just cannot imagine where this world is coming to. its painful to know that the balinese will yet again have to live in fear, the economy (of which tourism forms the bulk) will sink into recession, and the locals will need to rebuild their lives from scratch.

Article abstract from Yahoo:
BALI, Indonesia - Suicide bombers wearing explosive vests targeted tourist resorts on Bali with coordinated attacks that devastated three crowded restaurants on Saturday night, killing at least 25 people. Two al-Qaida-linked fugitives suspected of masterminding the 2002 nightclub bombings on the same Indonesian island may have been involved, a top anti-terrorism official said.

Saturday's near-simultaneous blasts struck two seafood cafes in the Jimbaran beach resort and a three-story noodle and steakhouse in downtown Kuta. Kuta is the bustling tourist center of Bali where two nightclubs were bombed three years ago, also on a busy Saturday night, killing 202 people.

Dozens of people, most of them Indonesian, waited in tears outside the morgue in Sanglah Hospital, near the island's capital Denpasar, for news of friends and relatives missing since the attacks.

Two Australians and a Japanese citizen were killed, along with 12 Indonesians. Hospital officials were trying to identify the 10 other corpses.

The 101 wounded included 49 Indonesians, 17 Australians, six Koreans, four Japanese and two Americans, officials said.

The bombers struck at about 8 p.m. as thousands of diners flocked to restaurants in tourist areas on the bustling, mostly Hindu island, which was just starting to recover from the 2002 blasts.

Baradita Katoppo, an Indonesian tourist from Jakarta, said one of the bombs on Jimbaran beach went off in the Nyoman Cafe, where he was eating with friends. Five minutes later, another explosion rocked a neighboring restaurant filled with diners.

"There was blood on their faces and their bodies," he said. "It was very chaotic and confusing. We didn't know what to do."

Another witness, I Wayan Kresna, told the private El Shinta radio station that he counted at least two dead near that attack, and many more were taken to the hospital.
"I helped lift up the bodies," he said. "There was blood everywhere."

At almost the same time about 18 miles away in Kuta, a bomb exploded at the three-story Raja restaurant in a bustling outdoor shopping center. The area includes a KFC fast-food restaurant, clothing stores and a tourist information center.

Smoke poured from the badly damaged building.

The bomb apparently went off on the restaurant's second floor, and an Associated Press reporter saw at least three bodies and five wounded people there.