Someone said that if you love something
greatly set it free. If it comes back to you,
it?s yours for life. If it doesn't come back, it
never was yours in the first place.
When it comes to romantic relationships,
some individuals become so highly motivated
to find someone to love that they begin to
violate well-known principles of freedom
and respect in human interactions. That's
like turning a fire hose on a flickering
flame.
I heard about one young man who was
determined to win the affection of a girl who
refused to even see him. He decided that
the way to her heart was through the mail,
so he began writing her a love letter every
day.
When she didn't respond, he increased
his output to three notes every 24 hours.
In all, he wrote her more than 700 letters
and as a result, she married the postman.
That's the way the system works. Appearing
too anxious and too available actually drives
other people away rather than attracting
them into a committed relationship.
Romantic love is one of those rare human
endeavours that succeed best when it
requires the least effort. And remember that
respect precedes love, and that relationships
are constantly being tested by cautious
lovers who like to nibble at the bait before
swallowing the hook.
By Dr James Dobson
Thursday, October 26, 2006
Saturday, October 07, 2006
the mid-autumn festival week
the haze is getting so bad in singapore... im starting to wonder if face masks will soon be required when you have to travel outdoors. i can already feel the air choking my air passage and not allowing me to breathe properly. it sux. have to literally shut out my windows before i can continue with my beauty sleep.
yest was the annual mid-autumn festival. here's some pics taken at Chinatown:
yest was the annual mid-autumn festival. here's some pics taken at Chinatown:
i think my hand was shaky....
display 01: pelican
display 02: beetlebugs
display 03: peacock
display 04: the butterfly
display 05: the peacock at its best
gtg. running late for my pri sch friend's gathering with 2 teachers!! hmm, im so excited and yet afraid of how it will turn out, as we have a few new classmates joinin us this time round. praying that it will be smooth, with as little awkwardness as possible. hope my fone will do the job well in capturing these moments for me later. to be continued. ciao~
Wednesday, October 04, 2006
THE NO-KNOCK POLICY
Article from Today
-- felt that this is something we can all learn from...
We've been talking these last few days about those youngsters who need a little help in
coping with peer pressure and rejection.
These are the boys and girls who are just a little different, physically or emotionally,
which places them at risk for problems with low self-esteem. Another suggestion for
parents is that they teach their kids what I call a "no-knock" policy. One of the common
characteristics of a person who feels inadequate is that he or she talks about it to
anyone who will listen.
An overweight man, for example, feels that he ought to apologise to his friends for ordering a hot fudge sundae. "I'm fat enough without eating this," he says.
Or a woman who thinks she's unintelligent will admit freely, "Oh, I'm really bad at math. You know, I can't even add two and two."
Now, this kind of self-criticism isn't as uncommon as we might think.
You might even be surprised by how often you tell your friends about your own faults and while you're babbling about all your inadequacies, the listener is formulating impressions of you.
After all, you're the expert on that subject. If you think you're a loser, then others are going to tend to see you that way.
You can help your child understand this simple principle. Teach him or her to accept blame and criticism when it's valid, but not to continually talk about embarrassing flaws and failures. If your kids learn to respect themselves, others will tend to be more respectful, too. It's called a "no-knock" policy.
-- felt that this is something we can all learn from...
We've been talking these last few days about those youngsters who need a little help in
coping with peer pressure and rejection.
These are the boys and girls who are just a little different, physically or emotionally,
which places them at risk for problems with low self-esteem. Another suggestion for
parents is that they teach their kids what I call a "no-knock" policy. One of the common
characteristics of a person who feels inadequate is that he or she talks about it to
anyone who will listen.
An overweight man, for example, feels that he ought to apologise to his friends for ordering a hot fudge sundae. "I'm fat enough without eating this," he says.
Or a woman who thinks she's unintelligent will admit freely, "Oh, I'm really bad at math. You know, I can't even add two and two."
Now, this kind of self-criticism isn't as uncommon as we might think.
You might even be surprised by how often you tell your friends about your own faults and while you're babbling about all your inadequacies, the listener is formulating impressions of you.
After all, you're the expert on that subject. If you think you're a loser, then others are going to tend to see you that way.
You can help your child understand this simple principle. Teach him or her to accept blame and criticism when it's valid, but not to continually talk about embarrassing flaws and failures. If your kids learn to respect themselves, others will tend to be more respectful, too. It's called a "no-knock" policy.
Sunday, October 01, 2006
a pain in the a**
wat is it about people/families getting together to chill and do absurd or silly stuff that they probably hasn't done in a long time that's boring? i mean don't we all just want to have some fun and the purpose of it all is to enjoy the moment and bond with everyone else which is so hard to come by these days with everyone's heads being buried in work.
and yet, each time we have a gathering with my cousins, im starting to hope that someone's partner will not be present. truth is, she's starting to irk us with her too chatty behaviour and whenever she's with the bunch of us, we become "BORING" folks, who does nothing but childish & silly acts that she has done in sec sch days.
and yet, each time we have a gathering with my cousins, im starting to hope that someone's partner will not be present. truth is, she's starting to irk us with her too chatty behaviour and whenever she's with the bunch of us, we become "BORING" folks, who does nothing but childish & silly acts that she has done in sec sch days.
cmon man... doing all these stuff is just to relieve the good ol days... even though we've grown old doesnt mean we have to behave like some blockhead eh? and the worst of it all, dont pretend to have the interest to come when you do not have the intention at all. we wish our cousin will join us without ur presence, but that is so "never" gonna happen... so dont give us
empty promises... and den as the hrs passed, give us some lame shit excuses that you guys are being caught up with something and thus couldn't make it eventually.
empty promises... and den as the hrs passed, give us some lame shit excuses that you guys are being caught up with something and thus couldn't make it eventually.
one day, i will get this into her brain: this is the way we are, and this is what we will be. if u dont like being with us, just shut the f*** up, and live with it. we will not change, and we certainly dont give a shit about u nor ur opinions.
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