To Build A Fire

>> I couldn't have read this article at a better time. When you truly love a person, one should give him the trust and freedom that they need, in the hope that our partner do not abuse them. Then again, when one truly loves another, we should also know our own limits/ boundaries and stick to it; however strong the temptations are.

Jack London, in his wonderful short story
entitled To Build a Fire tells of a man caught
in a freezing blizzard. The temperature
dropped to 24 degrees Celsius below zero,
and he tried to build a fire to save his life.

He had only three matches, and the first two
were snuffed out by the wind. His life
depended on that one remaining match. He
managed to get a little fire going as he
cupped his hands, and he held his breath.

Just as it looked like he would succeed,
some snow fell from a limb overhead and
snuffed out the flame. The man was doomed
to freeze to death in the arctic night.

You know, there?s a lesson in this story
that applies to romantic relationships.
Nothing will snuff out the flickering flame of
love more quickly than hovering too close
and trying too hard to make it burn. You see,
the bonding between two people occurs
best in an atmosphere of confidence and
freedom. Those who reveal their insecurities
and attempt to force themselves on their
lovers are putting everything on the line.

That?s like tossing snow on a tiny fire. How
can you turn it into a roaring furnace? By
giving it plenty of oxygen and trusting the
combustion of the fuel. Love, you see, must
be confident; it must be free; and it must be
voluntary.